As of lately I have not really been suceeding in the man department, either i find guys that r really, really big jerks, guys that r push overs or guys just in it for the goodies. So about a month ago i read the Steve Harvey book,  “Act like a Lady, Think like a Man” and he really pointed out some great points.

One that really stood out to me was the 3 month rule, about sex. He compared  it to him working at the Ford Plant when he was younger, and as a new hire he didnt get any benefits. And the older guys who had been there longer would tell him that he wasnt really working or “about anything” if he wasnt getting the benefits. But, the thing was, in order to get the benefits, he had to work the job for 3 months…..he had to show up, come to work on time, and do what was asked of him, to show that he really wanted to be there. Steve stated that, if a job can ask for all these requirements before giving the benefits, why didnt we women do the same?

The power of the “P” is always talked about. And my own philosophy has been, girls control whether or not u all have sex, but the guy controls whether or not u end up in a relationship…..But as of lately i feel as though i have been stripped of all my power. If i guy doesnt want a relationship, u cant change his mind. And if u with hold sex, trust me, there r plenty of “going” chicks out there that will give it to him. So its like u r damned if u do(they stop talking to u) and damned if u dont(they move on to the next)

So i have come to the conclusion that i am no longer going to let guys control things that i should have a say in. I have come to a place in my life(even my mama told me) where i need to start looking for Mr Right, not Right Now, im done with the pimp thing, im done playing games….so i made a few rules, nothing too big…

1. If u arent even thinking about a relationship in the NEAR future, keep it moving buddy, dont waste my time or urs…

2. No more house dates, if u not trying to go out or be out the house, go “chill” with someone else…….news flash, we know what kick it at the house and watch movies means by now…..duh…and dont try the “i dont really like going out alot, i just like chilling at the house” crap either….blah blah…..NEXT

3. If u dont feel the need to atleast text me everyday to see if i am still breathing, then u must not care….but the new rule is….im going to put it in ur hands….if u text i will text back, but i will NOT hound u….

4. If u feel like ur boys r more important than getting to know me, then by all means, go be with the boys. But dont expect me to sit around and wait for u to come back. My friends and i always say, u make time for the things u want to make time for. U make time for the gym, or to play basketball, or the “game”, so y not me? If u dont have time….dont waste mine…

5. The famous 3 month rule….Steve Harvey said, if he likes u….he will wait….so therefore if u like me…and u plan on being here awhile, u should have no prob. waiting. Im not saying we may not have the bomb connection and it be quicker than 3 months, but basically know….u WILL be waiting…..

6. And last but not least is….No more trying to find a guy…my friends know that im usually the one thats like, i like him, im going to get him. I get most of them, but they never seem to work out. And it is said that the husband finds the wife. So from now on im chilling, im not going after any guys, if u want my number then hey…..come see if u can have it(no pun)…lol

Anyway……..girls, let me know what u think of the rules….r they attainable? what should be added? would u think about setting these rules in ur own life???